Use this checklist to help match your support to the person’s emotional stage of development. A person may show traits from more than one stage - focus on what fits most of the time, especially during stress.
Parents and carers of people with intellectual disability often say the same thing:
“I know they don’t mean to behave this way—but I don’t always understand what they need.”
This is where the emotional development approach can make a real difference. Instead of seeing behaviour as “challenging” or “difficult,” this approach helps us understand behaviour as communication, shaped by a person’s emotional stage of development.
Parenting a child with additional needs can be one of the most rewarding and challenging journeys you’ll ever take. It can bring moments of deep connection, joy, and pride — but also exhaustion, self-doubt, and isolation.
Many parents describe feeling judged, pressured to “get it right,” or guilty for not doing enough. It’s easy to become your own harshest critic.
Psychology service for Children, Young People and Families in Nottingham
Email: mark@hudsonclinicalpsychology.co.uk